Do Parents Nurture Narcissists By Pouring On The Praise?
It’s a lot better to say ‘You worked really hard’ than ‘You must be really smart’, because if you tell the kid that they’re smart and then if they fail they think ‘Oh I’m stupid.’ If the praise relates to effort, a child who fails will work harder next time.
People with high self-esteem tend to have lower levels of anxiety and depression over time. Parents can raise their children’s self-esteem just by expressing more warmth. If you want to look for a substitute for ‘You’re special,’ just say ‘I love you,’.
NPR

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